325 Best First Messages on Tinder (Message Examples)

Getting a reply to your first message on dating apps like Tinder is a challenge. The best Tinder messages are unique, not super lengthy, witty, fun, and attention-grabbing. A bit of naive flirtation is also fine. So, how can you craft the best first messages on Tinder?

The best strategy for a winning first message on Tinder is to ask a question or offer a non-sexual compliment. Try to match the message with something they really care about. You can be flirty, but make sure their profile is suitable to be flirtatious. Also, try to emphasize any common ground you might have.

Below I have crafted some of the best first message examples and great opening lines for Tinder. Feel free to reuse and customize them to fit your specific needs.

But before you read the messages, I want to share with you a great trick on how to find a person on Tinder by name. You will find it super effective if you already have someone in mind whom you want to check out on Tinder.

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Now, it’s time for 325 great opening lines for Tinder!

  1. Let’s click Skip Intro, shall we?
  2. Wanna work together for a better world? If we are together, there will be at least two more happy people on Earth – you and me.
  3. Do you know what all the computing power of the world can’t calculate? Your cuteness!
  4. Do you know I have a secret superpower? I can read my mind! But I can only see you in there!
  5. What are your ideas for a dream first date? I would love to make it happen in real life.
  6. I like to keep my mind pure and lovely, that’s why it’s filled with thoughts about you.
  7. Never have I ever had a coffee with you. Please make it happen.
  8. Have you updated your new mailing address for everyone? Cause you have shifted permanently in my mind.
  9. Are you an explorer? As it seems, you have discovered the direct route to my heart.
  10. The first thing I noticed is your passion for photography. What are your best shots?
  11. Can I ask you an interesting random question?
  12. The best thing about you is your smile! Do you know what the second-best thing is?
  13. Hey, I would love to give you my phone number, what’s your preferred way of receiving it?
  14. Hello, please allow me to introduce myself! Currently, I’m all about you!
  15. I need a strong password for my bank account. Want to use a combination of your name and number? Can I get your number, please?
  16. What do you love at breakfast? I love to plan for the long haul, you know.
  17. I think you won’t give me your number. Now, prove me wrong.
  18. When are you free to have a good time together?
  19. Do you know any good pain meds, cause staying away from you really hurts.
  20. Suppressing emotions is bad for mental health. So, I am letting it all out — I have feelings for you!

While we are focusing on what to send as the first message, don’t forget the importance of a good Tinder bio and headline. Your bio and headline should also match the quality of the first message you are sending.

So, take some time to craft an impressive Tinder bio and a smart headline.

  1. Have you ever locked yourself in a room and thrown the keys out? I would love to do that with you!
  2. Hey, we have a lot of common interests. Let’s chat!
  3. I am finding it difficult to choose which superhero I should become. What would you want to be – Lois Lane or Mary Jane?
  4. There must be a world where you and I are together. Would you wanna go there?
  5. What personality type are you? Your profile gives a strong INTJ-A vibe.
  6. What do you think are the best Tinder openers?
  7. You are the best Tinder match that I will ever get. Would love to have a chat!
  8. Are you a music player? Cause just looking at you gets my heart singing.
  9. What’s the right way to approach you as the first move?
  10. I get a feeling that we will have a good conversation now!
  11. The first line of your bio blew my mind!
  12. Hey, if you give me your phone number, I’ll give you mine! ????
  13. What do you look for in a real relationship?
  14. What’s your favorite thing to do on an actual date?
  15. What characteristics of a person make a good first impression on you?

  16. I am looking for an easy way to get a place in your heart. How can I do that?
  17. May I ask a simple question?
  18. Tell me about the best time of your life and I’ll tell you mine.
  19. What makes up a great time for you?
  20. Do you know the easiest way to become an astronaut? (If space is one of their interests.)
  21. I have a good sense of humor; want to hear a joke?
  22. What’s the most fun way of making a hot dog?
  23. Wanna know a sure-fire way of making a viral cat meme?
  24. What’s more important to you – physical appearance or intellect?
  25. Hey, I wanted to share a few cheesy pickup lines with you for obvious reasons.
  26. Are you a bank loan? Because you have my interest.
  27. It’s supposed to snow on Friday night. What are you doing?
  28. What are your favorite ways of enjoying a Friday night?
  29. You have a very impressive Tinder bio!
  30. Your profile pic is out of the world beautiful. Are you a real person?
  31. Hey, I also have a deep passion for [common ground]. How did you get into it?
  32. I noticed something really cool about your profile. Wanna know what?
  33. I am looking for new books to read on [common interest]. Could you suggest a few?
  34. I have some free time at hand and wondering what new stuff I can try out in town. What would you have done if you were me?
  35. Hey, how did you know I like [something from their profile]?
  36. Hey, I also love hiking, what are your favorite trails in [region]?
  37. Hey, I also like [food items]. What’s your favorite restaurant in town?
  38. Which one is better — BBT or Friends?
  39. According to astrology, we are a great match. Wanna test it out?
  40. What do you think is the most toxic trait in men?
  41. What are your expectations from a romantic relationship?
  42. I think respect is the most essential element in a relationship. What do you think?
  43. What are your views on the law of attraction?
  44. Do you often think about the meaning and purpose of life?
  45. Hey, I noticed you are into personal growth. Who is your favorite author?
  46. Your bio says you are into podcasting! I would love to learn the art of podcasting from you.
  47. Are you a light or a heavy traveler?
  48. What’s your favorite hobby?

  49. Love the work you do or do the work you love?
  50. Apart from giving me sleepless nights, what else are you into lately?
  51. You must be on the Spotify Hottest Single list of all time!
  52. Do you believe in love at first sight? I think I just had that seeing you!
  53. Looking at you felt like life got a new meaning.
  54. The energy coming out of your eyes seemed to have pierced the depths of my heart.
  55. Do you know your image emits the fragrance of paradise?
  56. Seeing you feels like having a single moment with you would be the best thing in my life.
  57. It feels as if I never truly knew what love was until I saw you.
  58. What’s the secret to your ravishing beauty?
  59. Would you be willing to share a moment with me to uplift my life?
  60. My sky had no moon until I saw you.
  61. I would even trade the sun and the moon for you!
  62. Do you know your veggie name? It’s cute-cumber.
  63. If you were a fruit, you would be a fine-apple!
  64. The sparkle of your eyes has stolen the sleep of my nights.
  65. I bet the coffee would taste a million times better when we’ll be together.
  66. When we’ll be together, the world will be a much happier place.
  67. Where would you want to settle if you had a billion dollars?
  68. Hey, I also went to [place] recently, what did you like most there?
  69. Did you know you look very much like [a celebrity]?
  70. I bet it’s not the first time for you to steal someone’s beating heart. But it’s the first time mine has been stolen. What can I do now?
  71. You have stolen my heart. I guess I would need your name and number to file for the insurance claim.
  72. Do you like adventurous tours or relaxing vacations?
  73. My beating heart knows what it wants. Any guess?
  74. How do you face any challenge that life throws at you?
  75. It feels like we have met before. Have we?
  76. Hey, we went to the same school! Yay!
  77. What do you like to do on weekends?
  78. Passing some lonely time tonight, suggest a movie to watch!
  79. What’s the pet peeve you dislike the most in a person?
  80. What’s the weirdest thing that you’ve ever done?
  81. Can I call you my country road, because it feels like you can take me home?
  82. You are the most handsome/beautiful person I have ever seen. Would give anything to meet you in person!

  83. I feel like I have found water after being thirsty for a million years when I saw your profile.
  84. Do you know where I’ll be the happiest? Right beside you!
  85. Do you know where I belong? In your arms.
  86. Buddha said, “You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” But you also deserve mine!
  87. I have received the best gift of my life from you – the smile I get by looking at you.
  88. Are you electricity? Cause simply looking at you lightens up my being.
  89. Everyone knows that happiness begins with H, but mine begins with U.
  90. I saw you love hiking. Me too! Would you be my travel buddy for the next trip?
  91. Do you believe in soulmates?
  92. Your bio made me feel like you are my soulmate. I have been seeking a person like you for a long time.
  93. What is your idea of an ideal partner?
  94. What’s your idea of a perfect life?
  95. I always believe in following my dreams. That’s why I need your Instagram.
  96. Your bio tells a wonderful story of your life. Would love to read more.
  97. The story of your life has truly inspired me. Would love to know more about you.
  98. I see you have a pet! My poodle would love to play with yours.
  99. I am searching for a partner who is ambitious. What are your priorities in life?
  100. What are your life goals?
  101. What’s more important to you – money or work-life balance?
  102. Your bio tells me we are on the same page in life. I think an actual date would greatly benefit both of us.
  103. What are your plans for facing the challenges of work-life balance as a family?
  104. Finding a religious person is hard these days. Would you want to form a holy companionship?
  105. How much money do you think you need to live your dream life?
  106. I can’t believe you are a real person. You must be an angel.
  107. I would have never believed that one could find an angel on Tinder until I saw you.
  108. I’m an introvert. It takes a lot for me to approach someone. But I simply could resist reaching out after seeing you. How are you doing?
  109. I know you already know this, but I must say – you are beautiful.
  110. I never thought true love would strike me the way your image did.
  111. I wanna bask in the sights and the sounds of your Elysian laughter.
  112. I know we just got matched on Tinder, but I had a beautiful dream about you last night.
  113. The spark in your eyes has stolen my heart.
  114. Since we got matched on Tinder, I can’t seem to find my heart. I think you have it now.
  115. No matter how much I try, I can’t stop thinking about you since we got matched.
  116. Hey, we both studied literature in college. Who is your favorite poet?
  117. Do you love fiction or non-fiction more?
  118. Hey, I see you love sci-fi. Which one is your favorite of all time?
  119. What do you like in a Tinder conversation?
  120. What is your favorite opening message on Tinder?
  121. Do you believe in parallel universes? I feel like we are already together somewhere.
  122. I think I love you. Or, I love you, therefore, I think like that?
  123. Every time I look at you, my heart skips a beat; still, I can’t stop looking.
  124. Theodore Roethke said that “Love is not love until love’s vulnerable.” Do you agree?
  125. I always wanted to have someone in life who is as special as you. Would you make it happen?
  126. I am planning a vacation right now. Where would you go if you were me?
  127. What do you find most attractive in men/women?
  128. There’s no adjective to describe your charm and beauty. You surpass everything.
  129. What’s your idea of a day well spent?
  130. What’s your idea of a fun evening?
  131. What do you notice first when you meet a new person?

  132. It’s very intriguing that you are [something from their profile]. I would love to know more!
  133. What do you like most about [name of your town]?
  134. What three mobile apps would you choose if you were allowed only three?
  135. Who is your favorite superhero?
  136. What superpowers should you choose for yourself?
  137. Are you magic mushroom? Just by looking at you, I feel enlightened.
  138. Are you an immigration officer? Cause you have my passport to heaven.
  139. Hi, how’s your day has been so far?
  140. Just FYI, you are beautiful.
  141. Hi, we like a lot of the same things. I think we will have a blast when we meet.
  142. What’s your definition of love?
  143. Do you believe in platonic love?
  144. Hey, what would you like to talk about when we meet?
  145. What’s your favorite color? I bet it’s blue!
  146. I am suffering from your-though-induced insomnia, and you are the only cure.
  147. Being by your side feels heavenly…oh, wait! I was just having a dream!
  148. What’s the best gift that you have ever received?
  149. Hey, I’m impressed to see that you love sports, wanna go to a game together sometime?
  150. What do you do when you feel lonely?
  151. What are your favorite ways of fighting negativity?
  152. How do you deal with toxic people?
  153. What’s your favorite vacation spot in the country?
  154. What are your views on spirituality?
  155. What are your views on politics?
  156. I want to share a good idea about pottery (or, whatever their interests are).
  157. What are your thoughts on marriage – a social institution or a spiritual bond?
  158. What do you think about having children?
  159. It seems you love motivational quotes. Me too! [Send a good quote].
  160. The other day I was talking to a rose and it told me you are more beautiful than them, and I agreed.
  161. You are a traveler, I see! Would love to be a part of your journey.
  162. What are the destinations on your must-visit list lately?
  163. I was talking to the ocean the other day and it told me that it’s nothing compared to the depth of your eyes.
  164. The beach or the mountains?
  165. Beer or wine?
  166. According to Paulo Coelho, the entire universe has conspired to match us on Tinder. So, we must do something about it, right?
  167. The sparkle of your eyes is blinding! How do you look yourself in the mirror?
  168. Reading your bio, it felt like you value freedom. I was searching for someone like you for a long time.
  169. Can I get your calendar link? I want to set up a date with you!
  170. Your face feels like a cool breeze on a hot summer evening.
  171. Hi, I see you write poems. Would love to read a few!
  172. Want someone to share your joys and sorrows with? Try me!
  173. What do you think about unconditional love? Can love be unconditional?
  174. Who is your favorite Disney character/princess?
  175. Do you believe in fate or free will?
  176. Hey, I am planning to go watch [movie name] [date]. I know [actor/actress] is your favorite. Wanna join?

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The answer might surprise you!

  1. What book/books are you reading right now?
  2. Hey, are you new in [town] or have you been living here for some time?
  3. Hey, being a [their job] sound awesome! What do you enjoy most about your job?
  4. Hi, I see you went to [college]. What are your most cherished memories of your college days?
  5. Are you a morning person or a night owl? Depending on that, I’ll craft my days.
  6. Hey, I see you are a hustler. Me too! Maybe we can share some entrepreneurial spirit sometime soon?
  7. What’s your favorite time of the day?
  8. Hi, I loved your photos by the beach. Where were they taken exactly?
  9. Hey, I’m buying groceries for the week. Do you need anything?
  10. What do you miss most from your childhood?
  11. What do you miss most from your college days?
  12. Bertrand Russell said that of all forms of caution, caution in love is perhaps the most fatal to true happiness. So, let’s not be too cautious, and let’s go out, shall we?
  13. How were you as a teenager?
  14. I would love to pet your dog!
  15. Although it may sound cheesy, I must admit, you are the most beautiful/handsome person I have ever seen.
  16. What are your regrets in life?
  17. What’s the weirdest stuff that you have ever done in life?

  18. Wow! You are way out of my league, but I have a habit of reaching for the moon.
  19. Getting matched with you now seems like destiny.
  20. My astrologer said my dream partner would have your name! I think it’s you!
  21. What’s the worst first Tinder message that you have ever received?
  22. Are you a cat or a dog person?
  23. What do you want to learn more in life?
  24. If given a chance, what would you want to be – a movie star or an astronaut?
  25. Who is your favorite character in [Friends/BBT/The Office/etc.]?
  26. If you were to settle in an exotic location for life, where would it be?
  27. I always considered myself a patient person, but I was wrong. I couldn’t wait for a single moment to message you.
  28. You are the first person I am asking for the number. Don’t believe me? Will share my password if you give me your number!
  29. Personality or looks? What do you prefer?
  30. You must be a camera, as every time I look at you, I smile.
  31. Who would you be if you were any famous personality?
  32. You are as beautiful as your name.
  33. BCS or BB?
  34. You must be tired, as you have been running in my mind all day long!
  35. I can’t find my phone. Could you please ring it up?
  36. What are your weirdest fantasies?
  37. What are you scared of the most?
  38. I’m grateful to the universe for bringing you into my life.
  39. I’m planning my retirement right now, wanna plan something together?
  40. Your face seems to have cleared the clouds of my mind. Now I can see the clear blue sky shining.
  41. Our life goals match surprisingly well. Wanna chase them together?
  42. I like to meet and know authentic, real people at a real level. How about you?
  43. Do you have a map of this town? I seem to have been lost in your thoughts.
  44. They say love is blind. What do you think?
  45. Life is short; let’s make the most out of it together!
  46. Hey, I’ve found something really special about you! Wanna know about it?
  47. I’m heading to a dope party. Will you be my plus 1?
  48. There’s a word in the street that we two are dating. Want to make it real?
  49. Have you ever been to the Maldives? Planning a trip next month. Wanna join?
  50. I am not sure why I feel so drawn to you. Are you my soulmate?
  51. What would you have sent as the first message to you, if you were me?
  52. Reading your bio felt like a breath of fresh air. I want to meet your parents and thank them for bringing you into my life.
  53. Would you mind if I showed your photo to my mom? I just wanted to show her my future girlfriend.
  54. What if I ask you out on a date? Would your answer be the same as the answer to this question?
  55. Random question: Who is your favorite Greek god?
  56. What’s one thing you couldn’t live without?
  57. Whom do you love the most in your life?
  58. What would you do if you had an extra million dollars to spend in a day?
  59. Describe yourself using emojis!
  60. Send me a GIF that describes your feeling after getting this message from me.
  61. Hi, I’m [your name]; but you can call me Mine!
  62. Hey, I see you are a guitarist. Would love to hear you play!

  63. I heard a lot of great things about [their workplace]. Do you enjoy working there?
  64. What are you afraid of the most?
  65. What are your dreams for the future?
  66. What’s your idea of a dream life?
  67. What’s a dealbreaker for you in a relationship?
  68. What are you most passionate about in life?
  69. I won’t be able to be an organ donor, as you already have my everything.
  70. Flowers or chocolates; what would you want on a first date?
  71. Coke or Pepsi?
  72. What do you enjoy most – reading books or watching movies?
  73. I don’t pray anymore because you are all that I have been praying for.
  74. I don’t Google anymore, as you are the answer to all my questions.
  75. (Singer) is one of my favorites too. Which one is your favorite song?
  76. You can easily be the Miss World. Have you ever considered this?
  77. What would you like to get as an initial message – a compliment, a question, or a cheesy pickup line?
  78. Which song describes your love life the best?
  79. Pick one – a) coffee b) lunch c) movie d) dinner, and let’s go!
  80. Choose: the ability to fly -or- the ability to become invisible?
  81. When do you feel the happiest?


  82. Among millions of profiles, we matched with each other. It must be a sign from above!
  83. Hey, now that we have matched, can I change my relationship status?
  84. What are your favorite conversation starters?
  85. Hey, would you please share the best first messages you have received on Tinder?
  86. What do you look first in a person’s profile on Tinder?
  87. Hey, I have been trying to come up with a good first message to send you for hours. But I need to know more about you for this. Can we talk for a bit?
  88. I don’t want it to sound like a flirty compliment, but you really are breathtakingly beautiful.
  89. Hey, I see you are a fan of [band name]. Which one is their best concert, in your opinion?
  90. Do you like to hang out with a lot of people or a few close friends?
  91. You are so beautiful! No wonder Tinder makes $2bn a year!
  92. I know you are busy, but any chance for me to get into your to-do list?
  93. No man can resist asking for your phone number. Neither could I – can I have your number, please?
  94. What do you find most impressive in a man/woman? I’m willing to change.
  95. Hey, any plans for the weekend?
  96. Hey, I loved your fashion sense. Where do you shop usually?
  97. How do you screen and vet men/women lining up your profile?
  98. Prove that you remember your mobile number by sending it to me!
  99. Hey, I was about to introduce you to my family group chat. Which photo should I use?
  100. If you got Aladdin’s Genie, what would be your three wishes?
  101. Choose: the bar or the coffee shop?
  102. I am thirsty! Do you know you are made of 70% water?
  103. Can I borrow a kiss from you? I promise to give it back when we meet!
  104. I truly want to know more about you. But how can I do that without having your number?
  105. Hey, I know a few very funny dad jokes… You’ll love them!
  106. We both have phones; let’s get them connected!
  107. I bet your license got suspended cause you are driving me crazy!
  108. Do you like a good boy or a bad boy? I can be both!
  109. We have a lot in common, so I couldn’t resist giving it a shot – will you go on a date with me?
  110. I noticed you are focused on professional growth. How do you face workplace challenges?
  111. It seems like you are a highly spiritual person. Would you be open to sharing some of your thoughts?
  112. I’ve seen you in real life!
  113. I have good news for you!

  114. I don’t know why, but looking at you feels like sunshine.
  115. Will you be my sunshine?
  116. How do you resist yourself when you look in a mirror?
  117. I guarantee our first date will be awesome.
  118. Do you know what’s a great way to be happy?
  119. What are your expectations from online dating?
  120. Want to know a good way to get the guy/girl you like?
  121. Do you like a rainy day or a sunny day?
  122. “In all the world, there is no heart for me like yours. In all the world, there is no love for you like mine.” Guess whose quote is it?
  123. If I know what love is, it is because of you.
  124. They say, “There is never a time or place for true love. It happens accidentally.” What do you think?
  125. Life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans. So, let’s not plan any more and just go on a date right away, shall we?
  126. What’s your number one ideal or mantra in life?
  127. How can I be sure that we are not soulmates? Let’s go on a date and test it out!
  128. Are you Wi-Fi? Because I’m feeling a connection.
  129. How many boys/girls have you killed so far with your good looks?


The way to a person’s heart is hidden in their dating profiles. So, checking their profile deeply and carefully is a good start. But attractive Tinder users get a lot of messages on a daily basis. You really need a quality opener to get a response from them.

The first text has to catch their fancy enough to elicit a response. Also, avoid common mistakes like typos, sending a cliche funny pick-up line, or being too cheesy.

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I hope the hard work I have put into creating the exhaustive list of best first messages on Tinder helps you get the love of your life.

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